Raising Girls Episodes

In this episode, Carmelita welcomes Nicole from Family Story to discuss the concept of family privilege and the importance of broadening our understanding of what constitutes a family. Together, they explore the societal, cultural, and policy implications of adhering to a narrow definition of family and offer practical advice for raising children to be accepting and inclusive. Highlights and Next Steps: - Challenge assumptions about family structures in your daily life. - Introduce dive...

What woman hasn’t disliked part of her face at some point? My nose is too big. I don’t like my profile. My forehead is too big. I wish my lips were fuller. Val Monroe, former beauty editor for O, The Oprah Magazine and writer of the popular Substack newsletter How Not to F*ck Up Your Face, and Body Relationship Coach Debbie Saroufim, chat with host Carmelita Tiu about grappling with beauty standards, objectification, and how we can shift our perspectives as our bodies and faces change through...

Resilience – we know we all want our kids to have it. But what is it really, and how do we foster it in our kids? In this episode of Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them, Host Carmelita Tiu chats with Dr. Kate Lund, Psy.D., author of Bounce: Help Your Child Build Resilience and Thrive in School, Sports, and Life. Dr. Kate shares her unique viewpoint on how to help our tweens and teens build resilience and provides various strategies for how we can equip our kids to thrive, through all of life’s ups...

(Encore of Episode 05) “I’m Speaking.” We all remember that magical, kick-ass Kamala Harris moment, right? We encourage our daughters to be assertive, share their stories, and speak up. But when we teach them that interrupting is impolite and rude, are we inadvertently undermining their ability to rightfully claim airtime -- even if they’re interrupted by someone else? Will they choose politeness over being heard? Will they be afraid to assert themselves in a lively discussion, afraid that...

Ever wish you had a magic spell that would guarantee your daughter turns into a brave and confident woman? An “abracadabra” to ensure she grows up to be bold and powerful, in the best way? While sadly there’s no such thing, Wendy Snyder, Positive Parenting Teacher, Family Coach and founder of A Fresh Start Family, offers us some guidance in her article, "10 Important Phrases Parents Can Use to Empower Their Daughters.” The episode dives into how we can rephrase our words - how we can say t...

Episode 42 is all about fundamental LGBTQ concepts, and ways we can support our kids and others who may be on their own journey, discovering who they are. Elaine Farris joins host Carmelita (Cat) Tiu and shares: What the definitions are for assigned sex, gender identity, gender expression, and sexual orientation How these terms relate to one another Why acceptance is not the goal The importance of using pronouns How to support your child while being careful not to push them ...

In Episode 41 of Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them, Cai Graham chats with host Carmelita (Cat) Tiu about connecting with our tweens and teens, and coping. Some highlights: The importance of being vulnerable in front of their kids Why we shouldn’t beat ourselves up for the challenges we feel when raising tweens & teens 3 questions to ask your tweens & teens every day Healthy ways to cope Guest Bio: Cai Graham is a Parenting & Teen Mentor, Podcaster, International Speaker and Am...

Self-Harm and kids. What parent isn’t struck with anxiety when they think of their child contemplating self harm? What leads to self-harm becoming an option? (Warning: this episode discusses self-harm from an educational perspective. There are no personal stories or graphic experiences, but we do discuss what self-harm can look like. For some, this might be difficult or you may choose not to listen to this around young children. I encourage everyone to assess their situations, take care of th...

Ok, who of us hasn’t cringed a little bit, thinking about "having the talk" with your kids? Why does this awkwardness exist, and can we make it less awkward for our kids, so there’s a healthier dialogue about sex and bodies and relationships? In Episode 39, Sarah Sproule unpacks all of this with host Carmelita Tiu, sharing what parents can do to create an open atmosphere, build healthy attitudes towards sex and their bodies, and empower their daughters with tools to craft healthy relations...

What woman hasn’t disliked part of her body, or all of her body, at some point in her life? That is a problem. Diet culture, thin ideals, and ever-changing and unattainable beauty standards – these are self-esteem sabotaging issues that women and girls deal with every day. In a continuation of a conversation from Episode 37, Defying Diet Culture & Making Peace With Our Bodies, Body Relationship Coach Debbie Saroufim chats with host Carmelita Tiu about what parents can do to help empower th...

What woman hasn’t disliked part of her body, or all of her body, at some point in her life? That is a problem. Diet culture, thin ideals, and ever-changing and unattainable beauty standards – these are self-esteem sabotaging issues that women and girls deal with every day. Body Relationship Coach Debbie Saroufim chats with host Carmelita Tiu about how we can navigate diet culture and embrace our bodies, and escape from shame and guilt cycles. We cover: Her journey to becoming a b...

Alicia Haywood, Executive Director of iSpeakMedia, chats with host Carmelita Tiu and unpacks what media literacy is and explains how we can build media literate kids (it’s easier, in some ways, than you think)! She shares: Questions to ask A playful way to invite dialogue about media literacy How simply modeling can help ensure your child becomes media literate To learn more about Alicia Haywood and the ISpeakMedia Foundation, visit www.ispeakmedia.org, follow @ispeakmediafoun...

If you’re like me, you believe on some gut level that burying and ignoring your emotions isn’t healthy - and the research continues to back that. A study from the University of Texas found that when we avoid our emotions, we’re actually making them stronger — which can create serious implications for your body and mind, including depression, aggression, low self-esteem, and physical problems like headaches, insomnia, heart disease, intestinal problems. Another thing to consider, is that op...

April is sexual assault awareness month -- a reminder to acknowledge and support survivors, advocate for further awareness, and educate ourselves and our kids. While we know what sexual assault is on some visceral level, I wanted to do a quick episode that spells out what body boundaries, sexual assault, and consent are. It's so hard to know when to talk about these topics - and how to talk about them without instilling fear or anxiety. So I tried to find ways to raise the topics organical...

Host Carmelita Tiu tells the story of the worst/best valentine she ever received, and shares the truths she wants to share with her daughters, especially around this time of year. Comments? Email her at knowthembethemraisethempodcast@gmail.com -- and follow @knowberaisethem on Instagram. Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them New episodes drop every Tuesday (and sometimes in between). Subscribe here: Apple, Spotify, Google. For more doses of information and inspiration: follow on Instagram sign up...

Have you ever thought about how the art in museums, our monuments, and public art – are mostly made by and for men? And did you know that underrepresentation can foster feelings of inferiority and perpetuate implicit biases? How do we teach our girls to recognize and understand why this is, so they aren't subconsciously limiting themselves by what they see? In Episode 19 of “Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them,” Neysa Page-Lieberman, Monuments to Movement co-founder and co-artistic director, and a...

Mean girls. Queen bees. Wannabes. We've all felt or witnessed the ups and downs of female friendship, especially during those tween and teen years. In this episode, author Jessica Speer chats with host Carmelita Tiu, and explains why tween & teen girls have friendship struggles, sheds light on friendship truths, and shares tips and advice on how moms can help their daughters navigate these challenging times. Jessica discusses: The basis of friendship evolves as kids grow up How frie...

Charlsey Childers, self-worth and confidence coach, is back with more actionable advice and wise words to help moms bolster their self-worth and raise confident daughters. Check out Charlsey's previous episode here: Women, Self-Worth, and Raising Authentic Daughters Charlsey and host Carmelita Tiu discuss: 3 ways to start boosting your self worth right away, including doing something every day that brings you joy! Dealing with the specter of social media and helping your daughter navig...

Can you relate to this? You have so much to be grateful for - good relationships, a good job, good friends, good health. But still, you don’t feel happy -- you don't feel like you’re enough. In this episode, Charlsey Childers, a self-worth and confidence coach, explains why she became a coach, why women and girls struggle with self-worth, and how moms can help themselves and their daughters feel confident, worthy, loved, and show up authentically in life. Charlsey shares: We are all bo...

Ever wish you had a magic spell that would guarantee your daughter turns into a brave and confident woman? An “abracadabra” to ensure she grows up to be bold and powerful, in the best way? While sadly there’s no such thing, Wendy Snyder, Positive Parenting Teacher, Family Coach and founder of A Fresh Start Family, offers us some guidance in her article, "10 Important Phrases Parents Can Use to Empower Their Daughters.” The episode dives into how we can rephrase our words - how we can say t...

Do you say no, then feel guilty? Or maybe you say yes, then feel resentful? These feelings are part of the important but difficult task of setting and managing boundaries. Join host Carmelita Tiu as she chats with author and therapist, Julia Hogan. Julia explains: The importance of boundaries Ways to understand and define your boundaries How a “No” can be a “Yes” How asserting boundaries relates to fairness Listen to Julia on Episode 003, "Rethinking Self Care & Authentic R...

“I’m Speaking.” We all remember that simple-yet-powerful Kamala Harris statement, right? We encourage our daughters to be assertive, share their stories, and speak up. But when we teach them that interrupting is impolite and rude, are we inadvertently undermining their ability to rightfully claim airtime -- even if they’re interrupted by someone else? Will they choose politeness over being heard? Will they be afraid to assert themselves in a lively discussion, afraid that they’ll offend? L...

Have you noticed a confidence dip in your tween or teen girl? You aren’t dreaming...it’s a real thing. Today's article, "5 Steps to Helping Our Daughters Grow Up With More Confidence," comes from Briana Beazley. Briana is founder of NadiaGirl, a tween girls clothing brand focused on empowering young girls by creating comfortable clothing that fits well, to help them feel more confident. When Briana’s daughter was entering her tween years, shopping for her was discouraging and frustrating. ...

Getting your tween or teen to talk to you can be notoriously difficult. We’re all used to one-word answers and hearing “fine” when we ask how they’re doing. In this episode, host Carmelita Tiu reads "How to Get Kids to Open Up," by Ezza Mustaffa, a licensed professional counselor who works with individuals of all ages. She tells us about: The importance of a safe emotional environment The reptilian brain! 5 tips on how to create a safe space Ezza Mustaffa received her Masters ...