Episodes

What woman hasn’t disliked part of her body, or all of her body, at some point in her life? That is a problem. Diet culture, thin ideals, and ever-changing and unattainable beauty standards – these are self-esteem sabotaging issues that women and girls deal with every day. In a continuation of a conversation from Episode 37, Defying Diet Culture & Making Peace With Our Bodies, Body Relationship Coach Debbie Saroufim chats with host Carmelita Tiu about what parents can do to help empower th...

What woman hasn’t disliked part of her body, or all of her body, at some point in her life? That is a problem. Diet culture, thin ideals, and ever-changing and unattainable beauty standards – these are self-esteem sabotaging issues that women and girls deal with every day. Body Relationship Coach Debbie Saroufim chats with host Carmelita Tiu about how we can navigate diet culture and embrace our bodies, and escape from shame and guilt cycles. We cover: Her journey to becoming a b...

Alicia Haywood, Executive Director of iSpeakMedia, chats with host Carmelita Tiu and unpacks what media literacy is and explains how we can build media literate kids (it’s easier, in some ways, than you think)! She shares: Questions to ask A playful way to invite dialogue about media literacy How simply modeling can help ensure your child becomes media literate To learn more about Alicia Haywood and the ISpeakMedia Foundation, visit www.ispeakmedia.org, follow @ispeakmediafoun...

If you’re like me, you believe on some gut level that burying and ignoring your emotions isn’t healthy - and the research continues to back that. A study from the University of Texas found that when we avoid our emotions, we’re actually making them stronger — which can create serious implications for your body and mind, including depression, aggression, low self-esteem, and physical problems like headaches, insomnia, heart disease, intestinal problems. Another thing to consider, is that op...

April is sexual assault awareness month -- a reminder to acknowledge and support survivors, advocate for further awareness, and educate ourselves and our kids. While we know what sexual assault is on some visceral level, I wanted to do a quick episode that spells out what body boundaries, sexual assault, and consent are. It's so hard to know when to talk about these topics - and how to talk about them without instilling fear or anxiety. So I tried to find ways to raise the topics organical...

Every failure presents opportunities for learning, and a failed marriage is no different. In Ep. 33, Part 2 of a conversation that began in Ep. 32, Heather McGinley and Laura Koo chat with host Carmelita Tiu about the ups and downs of life post-divorce, and what they’ve learned. To learn more about Heather, Laura, and Thirsty: the Podcast, check out: www.thirstythepodcast.com Instagram: @thirstythepodcast Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them Subscribe here: Apple, Spotif...

Every failure presents opportunities for learning, and a failed marriage is no different. In Ep. 32, Heather McGinley and Laura Koo chat with host Carmelita Tiu about the ups and downs of life post-divorce, and what they’ve learned. Some key takeaways: It’s helpful for kids to have a sense for the work that parents put into giving them the life that they have. Tough moments can create opportunities for them to step up and be helpful. Sometimes divorce allows someone to be a better p...

How do we define "mindset"? Why does it matter, and how do we model a positive, growth mindset for our kids? Personal growth & life coach, Mary Beth Henry, breaks it down for us with host Carmelita Tiu. Mary Beth Henry touches on: The basics - what growth mindset and fixed mindset are Why modeling a growth mindset is so important The downsides of a negative, fixed mindset How to provide perspective to help offset your kids' negativity Plus, you can hear one of Cat's funny p...

How did your parents treat you, and how does this impact how you treat your kids? If you saw the Pixar movie “Turning Red”, you couldn’t help but consider these questions. In this week’s episode, licensed clinical psychologist Dr. Stephanie J. Wong chats with host Carmelita Tiu, and breaks down the concept of generational patterns. Stephanie shares: What generational patterns are How we can better identify them What a cultural genogram is – I found this website to be helpful: htt...

How often do you stop to question the expectations you have for yourself? How do we figure out what's a healthy expectation, and what's not? Join host Carmelita Tiu as she chats with author and therapist, Julia Marie Hogan-Werner, as she discusses challenging expectations and talks about her new book, “A Work in Progress: Embracing the Life God Gave You.” Julia shares: What inspired her to write the book Why we need to challenge expectations How to spot faulty expectations How...

What is positive psychology? Personal growth & life coach, Mary Beth Henry, breaks it down for us with host Carmelita Tiu. Mary Beth Henry shares: What positive psychology is How it differs from toxic positivity Tools to incorporate into our and our kids’ lives The one thought she wants listeners to know! For more info and to follow Mary Beth Henry www.mary-beth-henry.com Instagram: @if.she.can.you.can LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/mary-beth-henry Find Mary Beth’s...

Every year, International Women's Day chooses a theme -- a specific call to action in an effort to further gender parity. This year's theme is #breakthebias -- calling attention to the ways that explicit and implicit biases negatively impact women. And while we celebrate International Women's Day on March 8, we're challenged to use the rest of the year to make progress on ending gender bias. While we know what bias is on some visceral level, I wanted to do a quick episode that spells it al...

As moms, we are powerful creatures. We know we have an impact on our children’s lives, and our families. But have you ever wondered, “How can I be a part of even bigger changes, bigger movements?” In today’s episode, Cynthia Changyit Levin, author of From Changing Diapers to Changing the World: Why Moms Make Great Advocates & How to Get Started - discusses advocacy, motherhood, and points us in the direction to make even broader societal changes. Cynthia: Gives us a simple definitio...

In this episode, author Jessica Speer returns to chat with host Carmelita Tiu, to share more pointed and practical advice on navigating specific friendship scenarios. Jessica discusses: Understanding friendship breakups Navigating toxic people handling things when friends grow apart And more! Other references: Episode 18: Grappling with Girl Friendships To learn more about Jessica Speer and her work: Visit www.jessicaspeer.com Instagram: @jessica_speer_author ...

What does representation have to do with body image? What's body positivity, and what's body neutrality? Are you fat-phobic? Do your words and use of the word "fat" inadvertently feed into fat culture? In this week’s episode, body positivity expert Emily Lauren Dick delves into all of these questions and more. Emily explains: The origin of body image issues The difference between body positivity and body neutrality What parents can do to help their daughters love their bodies ...

Host Carmelita Tiu tells the story of the worst/best valentine she ever received, and shares the truths she wants to share with her daughters, especially around this time of year. Comments? Email her at knowthembethemraisethempodcast@gmail.com -- and follow @knowberaisethem on Instagram. Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them New episodes drop every Tuesday (and sometimes in between). Subscribe here: Apple, Spotify, Google. For more doses of information and inspiration: follow on Instagram sign up...

In this episode, writer, cultural producer, storyteller and empowerment speaker, Lacey C. Clark!, shares her story, why empowering girls is important to her, and how we can help our daughters feel empowered through their teen years and beyond. Lacey discusses: How to ignite the spark of self-love Focusing and celebrating strengths How to shift from comparison thinking Her biggest piece of advice for parents And more! To learn more about Lacey C. Clark! and her work, visi...

Ashley Carpentier shares her insights and advice for parents when it comes to eating disorders, body image, healthy relationships with food, self talk, and role modeling. Ashley covers: Myths about eating disorders Signs of a possible eating disorder Why to avoid the word "diet" Healthier approaches to food What parents can do to support their daughters To learn more about Ashley Carpentier and her work: Visit www.ashleycarpentier.com Instagram: @ashleyranaecarpen...

What's a cognitive distortion? How do I manage my or my daughter's negative thought spirals? Join host Carmelita Tiu as she chats with her guest, author and therapist Julia Hogan. Julia explains: What cognitive distortions are, and dives deeper into Catastrophizing All or nothing thinking Magical thinking or mind reading Personalizing "Should" Statements Others not mentioned but that are widely recognized include: Mental Filter Disqualifying the Positive Overgen...

Have you ever thought about how the art in museums, our monuments, and public art – are mostly made by and for men? And did you know that underrepresentation can foster feelings of inferiority and perpetuate implicit biases? How do we teach our girls to recognize and understand why this is, so they aren't subconsciously limiting themselves by what they see? In Episode 19 of “Know Them, Be Them, Raise Them,” Neysa Page-Lieberman, Monuments to Movement co-founder and co-artistic director, and a...

Mean girls. Queen bees. Wannabes. We've all felt or witnessed the ups and downs of female friendship, especially during those tween and teen years. In this episode, author Jessica Speer chats with host Carmelita Tiu, and explains why tween & teen girls have friendship struggles, sheds light on friendship truths, and shares tips and advice on how moms can help their daughters navigate these challenging times. Jessica discusses: The basis of friendship evolves as kids grow up How frie...

The end of the year always triggers look-backs and goal-setting for the future. If you're like most moms and high achievers, the new year comes with excitement, some trepidation, and some guilt that your previous year's goals didn't play out the way you thought they would (or guilt because not everything on your to-do list has been checked off). In this episode, host Carmelita Tiu shares some thoughts on how to shift our mindsets around failure (in big or small ways): Celebrate the big no...

What does it mean to be creative? How do we raise good kids? What does a mom of 3 grown daughters wish she knew back then, or know for sure now? My guest this week, and the second featured “mom who’s been there”, is Melissa Ohlman-Roberge. Melissa is the mom of 3 daughters, ages 29, 26 and 24 as well as their dog, Zoe, and is partner to husband Kevin, who dabbles on the stage when not running his staffing business. She calls herself a “creative instigator” who thrives on the energy of the cre...

Feeling overwhelmed feels awful. The to-do lists pile up, healthy habits are put on the backburner, and exhaustion and burnout start to creep in. It feels stressful and out of control - but how can we reign in the overwhelm and start thriving again? In this episode, therapist and life coach Liz Pessaran tackles this and more with host Carmelita Tiu. Liz shares: Why moms often feel overwhelmed The importance of self-trust and how it differs from self-abandonment Why you should pra...